Percentage of Married Black Men at an All-time Low

While doing research on the contemporary rhetoric of courtship I read an old article by Kevin Chappel in Ebony Magazine. The article was called, "The Case for Marriage". Chappell treated the relationship between Dr. and Mrs. Martin Luther King Jr. to make the case that marriage is a institution that serves not only the spouses, but the ministry or life work of the two involved. Among Chappell's powerful statements was the following:

"And even though studies reveal that married men live longer, happier lives-that they are healthier and more satisfied spiritually, professionally, materially, and emotionally than single men -the percentage of married Black men is at an all-time low."

I commend Mr. Chappell for revealing the truth, but while he left out the fact that married men also more sexual satisfaction, he added a powerful statement:

"For some reason, we think that shacking up is the same as marriage...But what we fail to understand or appreciate or respect is that innate need that man has for maintaining a long, loving relationship. It is central to our growth."

In that short article (April 2006), I do believe Chappell said it all. But what I missed was the response of brothers or sisters to answer or at least acknowledge the call. I'm happily married, but my heart hurts for the state of courtship in America today. Chappell targeted the African-American community where the state of marriage is especially disheartening, but all American cultures could benefit from marriage training. Contemporary Christian ministries have picked up on this, but to make the greatest impact, help must reach those who are not seeking that help, yet find themselves in and out of romantic relationships. College is a prime time to teach relationship building and high school is another ready venue. Verge is going after those hearts that have that "innate need for maintaining a long, loving relationship."